The Dynamics of Remembering and Grieving

Grieving is an important aspect of recovering from the painful loss of loved ones. When we lose someone we are not ready to accept that they are no more with us. We try to relive the experiences we had with them in an effort to bring them back to life in our mind to minimize the pain of loss. This is not going to help us move on with our life because the more we indulge in such thoughts we will sink deeper in to depression. All of us need a reasonable period for grieving and it is healthy to give ourselves enough time to grieve the loss of our loved ones. It cannot overwhelm us completely whereby we are unable to lead our normal life.

One of the factors that blocks us from moving on with our life is our memories. Memories are formed through the process of association. We associate things, smell, color, taste, sense of touch, sound etc to remember or store things in our memory. If the loved one that we lost is someone close who lived with us then we will remember them in everything we do. Every where we turn in our house will be filled with their memory. This can affect us badly so we need to understand the dynamics of remembering things to handle grief or help people move on to the next phase of their life despite their loss.