Psychology of Waiting!

Psychology of waiting? Is there anything called psychology of waiting? Yes may be not as a theory but it does exist and all of use it unconsciously to achieve various ends. We can see this concept even in the major religions of the World including Christinity where people waited for 2000 years for Christ and they are now waiting for the second coming of Christ; in Hinduism people have been waiting for the avatars. It is such a powerful phenomenon and infuses hope in some and desperation in others. Those who can cope with it seems to have greater endurance. What happens when we wait? It depends on what we are waiting for, if you are waiting for your girl friend it is a pleasant waiting. Even while waiting for your girlfirend without know whether she will come or not, it can be painful waiting. So waiting seems to trigger both fear and pleasure zones of our brain making us feel the intense feeling that we have. Not many of us are good at waiting especially when everything around us has taught us the importance of being quick. Waiting makes us weak at times and it will make us compromise. We will be ready to come down a great deal if we were made to wait for too long and what we are waiting is too important for us. Some nasty bosses make us wait for too long for that promotion that we are expecting, that rise that we are expecting. While we are waiting we will be all the more submissive because we will be afraid the becoming aggressive we may lose what we are waiting for. A pregnant woman waits for her baby's delivery just to hold her baby in her hands and along with it is tinged the fear of painful delivery and risk to life. So when we are waiting there can be a mixture of more than one feeling.

Psychological effects of political violence

The concern of this essay would be to evaluate how Freud’s psychoanalysis is able to help the counselor deal with the victims of political violence. To facilitate this discussion this work will a) try to define the term– ‘victim’, b) try to show the possible ways of falling a victim of political violence c) briefly list the aims of counseling and d) discuss the tools used by psychoanalysis and its application to the victims of political violence.

WHO IS A VICTIM?
Toma Tomov defines the term ‘victim’ as follows: “as a concept from the interpersonal realm, ‘victim’ builds on the experience of helplessness and hopelessness that befalls individuals, who have been denied the right to make a choice.” He goes on to say that becoming a victim is a traumatic event. This put one outside the range of usual human experience.

Political or Interpersonal violence can affect one physically or emotionally. When one becomes a victim of violence it throws one off-guard because it is outside the usual boundaries of human experience. It shatters the foundational presumption of social relationship namely that there is an implicit social contract of the community which has ‘live and let live’ as its policy.

As Toma Tomov observes, the trauma is due to the “fact that the source of violence emerges as a result of a role shift taking place with agencies such as the police or the secret service. There is a basic understanding that the police force exists to offer protection. In the case of political violence, there is a shift from protective to violent role.” This understanding would then mean that the victim is victimised because he or she is evil. The victim becomes like the child that has become the victim to incest. Political violence thus abuses the individuals through the agents who are believed to be protectors.

How does stress cause acne?

Stress causes acne as per the number of studies. Acne is purely a physical condition and it is affected or aggravated by a psychological factor stress. This shows how our mind body are closely linked. Stress triggers adrenal glands to produce certain hormones which is responsible for stimulating the sebaceous glands which produces sebum. Sebum is an oily substance that is produced by the body to lubricate our skin but when this oily substance is blocked inside the pores of the skin it reacts with the harmless bacteria that resides inside the skin and the mixture of sebum and bacteria form acne. So when we are stressed excessive sebum is secreted which increases the chances of getting acne. Moreover when we are stressed our immunity level comes down and the acne lesions do not heal because of this. Thus stress aggravates acne.

Enneagram Basics - What is Enneagram?

Enneagram is believed to be a Sufi way of classifying human personality types and it seems to have its origin in Afghanistan. Enneagram is 2000 years old. Eneagram was initially a oral tradition that was passed on my Sufi masters who revealed to the individual disciples that part of Enneagrm that is pertaining to that individual. It has become popular among the Christian circles in the late 90s.

The Sufi Ennieagram teaches one to look into oneself to discover one's own personality types. The term enneagram has Greek origin, 'enneas' meaning nine. The nine types are listed below.

Ones:
Perfectionists, Reformers, Judges,

Twos:
Givers, Assistants, Helpers,Caretakers,

Threes:
Performers, Achievers, Status Seekers

Fours:
Artists, Romantics, Aesthetes, Individualists,

Fives:
Observers, Thinkers, Experts, Investigators,

Sixes:
Questioners, Loyalists, Heroes,Defenders, Rebels, Skeptics,

Sevens:
Adventurers,Sensationalists, Enthusiasts,

Eights:
Asserters, Bosses, Challengers, Mavericks,

Nines:
Preservationists, Mediators,Peace Seekers, Peacemakers,

Dealing with change of job

If you are in the process of changing your job or quitting your job to venture into self-owned business do not hesitate; if that is what you want to do then go ahead with your decision because all of us need job satisfaction and without that there is no way you are going to be happy irrespective of the amount of money that you are going to earn. I always use this little anecdote that I read somewhere in this context. One of the landlords hired a farmer to chop wood and agreed to pay him a very handsome wage on daily basis - but the crunch is that he has to use the blunt side of the axe to chop the wood and the landlord told the farmer that he is not worry about the amount of wood that he will chop but he should never stop chopping. The farmer found it strange but agreed to the terms and conditions of the landlord because the pay was good. He struggled through the first day and got is pay; but the second day he came to return the wage he received on the previous the landlord was surprised and the farmer told him, "When I chop wood I want to see the chips of wood fly by, but in this job it is not happening and it will never happen."

There he went as he did not get his job satisfaction.

So when you want to change your job do not hesitate rather than suffering on daily basis, it is better to change your job. Be aware of your inner movements and decide. However, if you have heavy financial commitments make necessary arrangements before you quit your job. If you dont plan properly you will be exhibiting a number of psychlogical symptoms including stress and axiety.